i think i understand now why individuals from minority or marginalized groups get so angry at derailment or when someone interjects and takes up space in a specific discourse about marginalization/oppression. especially if that dialogue was supposed to be one of the few times when their voice has the opportunity to be heard; when they are for a while visible and when their grievances can finally be acknowledged.
when a privileged person who has plenty of space, representation and voice in daily life comes into the dialogue and derails, or chooses to speak about something that deflects attention from the minority’s experience, then that individual will undoubtedly be angry. because here is one of the few times they finally can get visibility, speak about their experiences (which takes bravery), and express solidarity with others. but when a privileged person comes along and, even for a while, pushes the minority’s experiences out of the sliver of limelight, can you blame minorities for being angry? this was the one time they get to speak. it is especially frustrating if they elbow in just to talk about themselves. the person of privilege has plenty of opportunities to be heard, yet they did not recognize their intrusion on a precious space or they were not sensitive enough to speak in that conversation without actively pushing out the voice of the minority at a moment when space is finally granted to them to speak.